Hukum vs Kewajipan

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Few days ago, aku ada meet up dengan kawan aku sorang ni. Kita dah lama ah tak jumpa so bila dah jumpa, macam-macam kita catch up. Sampai lah ke tahap personal.

Behind her happy moments, member actually banyak kesedihan beb. Haiz.

Her dad passed away about a year ago. So kalau seseorang tu meninggal, mesti nak kene settle alot of stuff. So being a responsible daughter, she had to do alot of closing accounts and such. And of course, kalau ada kematian, hukum fara'id mesti nak kene settle jugak.

Yang sedihnya, duit punya pasal, adik beradik pun boleh bergaduh. Boleh berpecah belah. Boleh sindir menyindir. Semua fikir pasal hak dorang tapi tak pernah fikir tentang kewajipan.

Yang lelaki sebok nak tuntut 2 portions of peninggalan aruwah. Sekarang ni, yang lelaki tahu ke tak kenapa dorang dapat 2 portions but anak perempuan dapat 1 portion jer? Of course they know tapi dorang tak peduli! Part fara'id nak ikut hukum tapi part tanggungjawab, hukum nya mana?

Kawan aku recently pergi holiday, negeri omputeh. She didn't post anything until kawan dia tagged her. Upon seeing her tagged post, someone mata merah start ah post benda dekat FB to cannon her. Yang mata merah ni tak lain tak bukan ah, ipar duai. Adoi...

Selama ni, kawan aku bertungkus lumus jaga mak bapak dia sampailah bapak dia meninggal. Susah senang, dia handle sendiri. Tak pernah nak susah kan adik beradik dia atau sedara mara. Adik beradik pun tak tolong. Even aruwah pakai duit savings dia sendiri to pay for this and that. Tapi bila member senang sikit, fooh start ah kene kalet.

Abeh asik post kat FB nak sindir-sindir kawan aku cakap dah senang boleh pergi overseas jauh-jauh. Abeh post video pasal hukum fara'id.

Nasib baik ah kawan aku tu chill. Dia takde nak post benda yang nak sindir-sindir balik. Dia takde nak reply comments semua. Takde beb! Kawan aku buat bodoh jer. Infact dia post benda happy-happy jer. Pihak sana mesti rasa lagi bingit.

Satu kali kalau kawan aku bukak semua cerita, hah malu lu beb. Tapi tak, kawan aku tu baik.

Aku respect kawan aku ni. Serious ah. She has been through alot. Sampai nak kahwin pun tersekat sebab dia rasa tanggungjawab dia sebagai anak belum lengkap and masih berat.

Dalam cerita ni, ada banyak pelajaran. Pertama, adik beradik ni seumpama air dicincang takkan putus. Korang dari benih yang sama. Susah senang, first to carik is adik beradik. Jadi cuba jangan nak bermasam muka, jangan sampai putus silaturahim. Tapi biasa ah, kengkadang ada perselisihan faham. Try to resolve as soon as possible. For the sake of your parents ah atleast.

Kedua, orang luar pun jangan lah jadi batu api nak cocok-cocok. Patot korang cuba memperbaiki perhubungan adik beradik kalau dah renggang. Jangan tegak kan lagi benang yang dah basah. Hamboi.

Ketiga, kau sebagai anak, fikir jer ah pengorbanan mak bapak kau selama ni. Jangan nak fikir hak dapat duit fara'id jer sampai lupa kawajipan sebagai anak especially anak lelaki. Sendiri mau ingat.

Keempat, kalau orang sindir-sindir kau macam mana pun, kau chill. Kau keep on posting all the positive and happy things. Dorang confirm lagi bingit. LOL. Don't stoop so low like them. Sebab Allah bersama orang yang benar. Biar orang buat kita tapi kita jangan buat orang. Yes very good. Keep it up!

Kelima keenam ketujuh semua korang pandai-pandai lah fikir sendiri.

Sekian.

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Si Kidal Bakes

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To be honest, I don't really like baking. So why I take up orders you wonder? Well because I love designing them actually. Hehehe. Cakes especially. When customers gave the magic sentence "I leave it to you for the design", fooohhh that is my favourite!

I get inspired by some angmo bakers who design so pretty cakes! I love looking at pretty cakes hence I follow afew from Instagram. Those pretty cakes make me feel erm pretty. Hahahaha!!

My ideas in designing are always there. The drawings are inside my brain already but when the empty canvas aka naked cake is right infront of my eyes, alot of other ideas came in. Hence, they are never gonna be the same as how I've drafted.

I can't say that my designs are nice lahhh but still acceptable right? Huahuahua! Though I always thought that I can do better. But no, I'm not the kind that will redo if I'm not happy. Afterall it is my own piece of "art" too so I gota love my work righttt...

I have changed my "business" name recently about a couple of months ago. I think it was in September. It is now called Si Kidal Bakes. Si Kidal is "the lefty". Yes I am a lefty. And so The Lefty Bakes. Yep.

When I changed my name, I gota change my logo too lah right. When I was in poly taking my diploma  (tak perlu eh haha), I took Idealism (or something like that) during 1 semester for my extra class. I forgot what these extra classes called. Ok nevermind.

So 1 of the topics was about logos. Companies do their logos according to their business and resembles something that gotta do with their business too. So I thought I shall make use of the "knowledge" I had. Hah!

1st thing came in my mind, pink. I love pink accessories, cutleries, etc. Hence my kitchen items are mostly pink and that includes my Kitchenaid mixer which I named her Kimberly! Got it? K for Kitchenaid, K for Kimberly. And Kimberly is the pink ranger. Hahaha!

The original photo of that mixer is actually the mirror image but I mirrored it because I'm a lefty remember so it has gotta face the left.

I Googled for pink cutleries and place it at the corner to avoid a messy look. Put a whisk into the mixing bowl to make it less empty. And I make sure my business name is bold and visible to see even if I put a light watermark at my photos. Not forgetting my Instagram page and hashtag! Important you know that 1. Hah!

Noticed something about SI KiDAL BAKES? Yep the 'i' for the Kidal is not capslock. It is becauseee my LEFT wrist has this mole that is quite big and dark. No lah not bigggg with bulu haha. A dot lah but big. Erm 5mm big? I used to want to remove it but my mom said that mole is something unique which I should be grateful about. It can also be a sign of rezki. Ok lah I must be grateful atleast it is not huge with bulu right. Heh. So to feel honoured, I shall implement it into my logo, at the word kidal to be precised, to remind myself that some imperfection makes people perfect. Sapppppp.... Bangga mak!

I take weekends and Mondays orders only. To be collected on Saturdays to Mondays only. I used to take weekdays orders also but ehhh tiring lah nyah! I cannot. So I stopped lah. Focus on weekends only.

Ok lah so don't forget to support me. I do normal vanilla and chocolate cakes only. No fancy tasting cakes. Tak kuasa akak haha. And I also do rainbow cake lah which I don't favour in doing. Banyak colok lah ni baker. Hahaha!

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Goodbye First Trimester

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Ada segelintir kawan yang tanya aku, "How is it like knowing you're pregnant?" Frankly, sebelum aku pergi scanning, aku in denial.

Aku asik tertanya, "Ada ke baby kat dalam?" And aku asik mimpi aku pergi checkup tapi tak nampak apa-apa.

Babes, korang fikir eh, 4 tahun tau aku kosong abeh tiba-tiba aku pregnant. Mesti ah aku macam terfikir-fikir and tertanya-tanya.

I am not questioning Allah, that's for sure. I'm just asking myself like how can this be possible. Hehehe. Yesss aku tahu ni semua kuasa Illahi. Aku terima syukur Alhamdulillah.

Aku ingat kalau dah lama sangat kosong, the only way to get pregnant is through IVF. But I was wrong. Allah kalau nak kasi, Allah akan kasi. Cuma kene memperbanyakkan doa. Kalau Allah nak amik balik pun, Allah akan amik tak kasi warning. Hence, I don't put my expectations too high. As high as tingkat 2 jer ah, taknak higher than that.

As I've mentioned in previous post, aku berdoa semoga Allah beri aku rezki yang terrrrbaik. Aku terima seadanya. Tak kira rezeki apa. Pelan-pelan Allah kasi aku rezeki itu rezeki ini. Cuma rezeki anak tu Allah cakap tunggu masa yang tepat. Jadi ni lah masa yang tepat I guess.

So aku finally pergi check up. Wanted to go earlier before pergi umrah tapi takde slot. So 2nd Jan 2016 it is. Registered and waited for the moment to be called.

'Mdm Annisa Zahra.'

Huhu Madam dok! Aku masuk bilik, the nurse suruh aku baring and wait for the doctor to come.

'Mam the doctor will do scanning for you. If she cannot see the baby, she might do an internal scanning.'

Weyh tak klakor! Aku terus cakap dengan baby aku lebih baik jangan main hide and seek eh. Show yourself. I don't wana get erm you know. Hahaha!

Doctor pun masuk and start scanning. Dia go slow and then tekan sikit. Ya Allah. There's the baby. So visible. So cute. The head, the limbs. MashaaAllah.

Doctor let us hear the heartbeat. It was so loud. That's my baby in there. Our baby. Warghhhh!!

Then baby starts to move. Doctor jiggle my tummy abit and saw my baby kicking in excitement. Doctor cakap baby kita action. Hahaha!

I couldn't hold back my tears. Aku tak nangis nangis ah. Aku tearing.

'Macam takde pa per eh. Sekali ada baby. Hehe got baby inside. So cute.'

Qiey's comment after the scan. I thought so too dear. Rupanya ada budak sebesar 4cm jer ni kat dalam. Now aku tak payah nak denial denial sangat. Dah nampak pun budak tu, confirm lah aku pregnant hehehe.

Ramai yang cakap 1st trimester will not be easy. Tell me about ittt... Apa aku makan semua tak kene BUT Alhamdullillah aku takde lah ke tahap makan muntah makan muntah. Rasa nak muntah tu 24/7 though.

Naik bus or cars/taxis dah macam nak pergi battle dok. Baca doa banyak-banyak. Motion sickness not funny. Kalau sampai Uber punya driver kene stop kat expressway punya road shoulder just to let me vomit tu apa hal. Ggrrr!

Other than fatigue and nausea and vomiting, I didn't know there are 25796425685 more symptoms in just 1st trimester. Whenever weird things happened to me, I'll tend to Google up.

There was once my right calf was so sore. Calf as in muscle bukan anak kambing tau. Mana tahu korang ingat aku bela anak kambing. Ok anyways I gota limp abit when I walk. When I Google, it was actually a part of pregnancy symptoms. Okayyy...

One night I feel massive bloating. Google said it will start from week 11 to birth time. All I need to do is eat small portions (which I do most of the time) & eat slowly. Ok fine I usually gobble up my food hehe. Okayyy lesson learnt lah!

Semalam went for 2nd checkup. Sekarang dah jejak 2nd trimester, I think. Dah 13weeks kot so erm 2nd ah kan? Hahaha! InshaaAllah it will be better for me.

Budak ni cekik darah eh. Perangai bapak nyer dah terikut agaknyer hahaha. Bila scanning tu tak tahu diam. Kita nak dia baring straight diam-diam sebab nak amik measurements, dia golek sana golek sini. Lepas tu bila nak tengok muka, dia bontot kan kita and stayed still. Aku asik kene action batuk and pusing kanan kiri jadi dia akan goyang-goyang lagi. Hahaha main-main eh!

By the way, Alhamdullillah I am gaining my appetite but still small portion meals. Those annoying vomit marathon has ended. I don't hafta take the nausea pills already! Yippedoo!

I lost 4kg during this period though tapi tetap nampak fatty lah. Aku dah tak boleh tuck in tummy. Boncit pun boncit lah nak, asalkan kau sihat kat dalam tu.

Only prob is, I hafta keep reminding myself to get up from my seat slowly. Feel abit of stitches everytime I get up but all fine InshaaAllah.

I always lose track of the number of weeks I am pregnant lah. Qiey said when people ask, I always say I am at 12 weeks. If not, I will just say 3 months haha.

'Asik 12 weeks jer.'

Hahaha! Semalam kat counter pun aku cakap aku 12 weeks. I have those track app thingy so whenever people ask me, I will need to check the apps if they wana know the exact week. Why do people wana know exact week sey? So the tak perlu. Hahaha!

I cannot even remember my EDD. My bestie Mas answered for me the other day when my other friend asked. Ok ok I must take note. Ok ok I know alreadyyy. I will rememberrr. 25th July ok. 25th July.

Sesungguhnya budak dalam perut aku ni kurniaan Tuhan yang paling precious, aku akan sentiasa berdoa semoga Allah akan sentiasa melindungi aku dan budak ni. Haha! Korang pun doa kan kita ok. Sayang korang!

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Umrah 2015

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Soooo as you guys knew, I went to umrah last month. Aku compose blog ni dah lama tapi tak post post. Heh.

Ya Robb, it has been the best trip in my life so far. Doa aku terkabul jugak untuk ke sana dengan Qiey. Tapi kalau boleh nak dengan my family. But isokeh, there'll be next time InshaaAllah.

It was quite a sudden idea ah. Everytime aku ajak Qiey sign up for umrah, he'll be reluctant. He kept saying it is not the right time. So aku pun selalu lah doa supaya Allah panggil kita dalam masa yang terdekat.

Tiba-tiba Qiey balik 1 day and said, 'Dear, ustaz ajak pergi umrah end of this year. Jom!'. Aik aleh-aleh jer dekni. Half the year passed, leave aku dah half gone. Kalau pergi ni, mesti kene amik unpaid leave. Alah tak kesah ah, go jer ah.

Pendek kan cerita, 10 of us decided to go with the ustaz. 5 of which are Qiey's uncles and aunts, 2 are ustaz relatives and 1 is ustaz helper.

Ustaz is Qiey's family friend so they've known this ustaz since forever.

We sent our bags for check-in the day before. Alamak tudung senget pulak. So anyways kita bawak apa yang perlu jer ah. Not forgetting jacket, thermal wear and glove. Cause kat sana can be chilly in December. Lagipun kita nak pergi Jordon mah. Sana vair cold ah. Aku pulak tak tahan sejuk. Bawak jugak ah jeans or pants. Kalau pergi bersiar-siar outside Mekkah Madinah, nak more casual, boleh jugak pakai.

Aku bawak semua jubah hitam. Mak aku cakap kat sana takde orang pakai colour colour. Tapi bila dah sampai sana, colourful jugak orang-orang punya baju. Haha! Buttt hitam is safer lah kan. And wear something that is solat friendly. Masuk masjid terus solat. Khalas. Takyah nak sarong telkung. Tapi kalau rasa nak pakai telkung, pakai jer. No problem.

Socks pun pakai jer sekali dalam selipar or kasut. Memang kaki kan part of aurat jugak jadi biasa kan pakai socks ok. Yang tebal sikit, jadi tak jarang. Kalau rasa socks jarang, sarong lagi 1 layer. Alah kan ada jual socks yang pendek yang buat solat tu.

Kasut takya pakai yang ada kancing-kancing ke apa. Pakai jer pump shoes tapi make sure comfortable. Aku terpakai yang tak comfy. So everytime nak pergi sight seeing, I'll wear my sneakers. Nak pergi masuk keluar masjid ada leceh sikit hehe. Nak pakai slipper pun ok. Laaaagi ringkas! And nak masuk masjid, letak kasut/slipper dalam plastic and bawak masuk sekali. Mana lah tahu kot kot hilang kan. Tawakal pun tawakal tapi kene amik prihatin jugak. Haha. Budak-budak kecik suka main kasut too. Dorang main campak-campak you know.

Tudung semua instant sudah. Toksah nak belit sana belit sini. Cocok tang sini cocok tang sana. Kat sana pun takya lah nak melawa sangat. Aku bedak pun tak pakai tapi mesti pakai moisturiser and lotion. Cuaca kat sana tak serasi dengan kulit kita. Lip balm also ok!

The day has come (051215) and time for us to fly off. Family, relatives and friends sent us off. The goodbye was so hard especially to my mom. 15 days dok. I'm sure gona miss her so much! These are my family. Totally forgot to take pictures with my inlaws!!

The flight was a 9 hours flight. Tak pernah-pernah aku naik flight that long. Longest was 4 hours to HK. Was given 2 meals. Tidur bangun makan tidur bangun makan. Hahaha. Cukup time, we hafta jatuhkan niat ihram. Cause we are heading straight to Mekkah first and will straightaway do our umrah.

Yang the 2 meals given, both aku tak boleh makan. I was pregnant remember? Tak tahu berapa week. 7? 8? Yes I know I was pregnant. Heh. So everytime sampai, aku makan 1 sudu terus givup. Tak boleh ah. Macam nak muntah max!

Once we've reached Jedah airport, tahu lah how people rush. Tak payah kalang kabot. Join the queue slowly. Kalau kalang kabot pun, kau tetap kene tunggu for 3-4 hours. Tak bedek ok! Keimanan korang dah start mencabar that moment onwards haha. Good luck!

Perjalanan ke kota Mekkah took afew hours. Lupa lah berapa jam. Once we've reached, we checked in hotel chop-chop cause kita nak kejar kan Subuh. 1st Azan (usually 1 hour before actual time) has been heard. So we have less than an hour to settle down.

The firstttt time ever when I get to pray at Masjidil Haram was that Subuh. Eventhough we didn't get to enter the masjid cause it was full and they closed the entries, the feeling was beyond explanation ah. Like, I am finally here. Praying here. MashaaAllah. Ni belum lagi tengok kaabah, belum lagi solat depan kaabah. Tu lagi BOOMZ!

Kalau nak masuk masjid, handphone jangan lupa seal. Haha. Nanti ada guard perempuan call you out "Hajah! Hajah!" Kalau jumpa hp nanti dia cakap "Haram! Haram!" And tak kasi kau masuk. I was lucky, tak pernah kene. Hehe.

Lepas subuh we gathered and all are eager to do our umrah. I cannot control my tears. This was the first view I had. When I got nearer and nearer, the moment the kaabah was exactly infront of me, I was speechless. Serious ah macam tergamam. Betul ke aku ni depan kaabah?

Kita tawaf 7 kali. Everytime bertemu Hajral Aswad, kita kene angkat tangan. Ingat ingat jugak perempuan tak boleh angkat tangan tinggi-tinggi. Bahu nak kene always towards kaabah. Alhamdullillah tawaf umrah first was done smoothly.

Once done, kita pergi solat punya area, facing makam Ibrahim and do our solat lepas tawaf. Lepas solat tu, kita berdoa lah. Mentak lah apaaa sajer yang kita nak. Sesungguhnya tempat situ lah salah satu tempat yang palinggggg mujarab.

Sorry aku first time kat sana, aku terlupa nak doa kan orang-orang lain hehehe. Doa untuk aku and parents aku jer dulu. Tapi lepas 2 3 kali kat sana, aku keluar kan list of the names I wana make doa for and the doas orang kirim. Kirim doa jer, takde hal bro. Semoga doa-doa aku untuk diri aku dan korang semua akan termakbul. Amiinnn....

Haaaa part sa'ee. Aku tak sangka first time bersa'ee, aku terasa sangat kelemahan dan kesakitan kaki. Mayyybe cause I was pregnant, tapi aku ada tips nak kasi kepada mulismah.

Kalau pakai stoken tu, pakai yang teballl sebab the flooring is cold you know. Men cannot escape ah cause hafta be barefooted. Pakai stoken yang bawah dia macam ada grip sebab the flooring can be abit licin (especially part zamzam).

And kalau boleh, ada stamina tu, jangan jalan macam pengantin, mak bonda kinda walk. Try to walk briskly. Jalan macam nak kejar mrt gitu, macam lari tapi tak lari. Hahaha. Tapi jangan laju sangat lah k cause memang digalakkan jalan seperti biasa jer. But to me, putting abittt speed in your sa'ee can help finish faster and tak rasa penat sangat. Did that on my 3rd time umrah, it was the best.

Part lampu hijau, lelaki kan kene atleast jog kan. Part tu aku pun konon jalan laju sikit dari the normal speed cause nanti aku kene tinggal dengan Qiey haha. Aku nak jog jugak tapi Qiey tak kasi. LOL okay lorrr... Btw this is the 2nd storey. 1st storey pun ada tempat for sa'ee.

Kalau korang tengok ni tumblers berderet, these are all zamzam. Zamzam there are sooo easy to get. Haus je, grab the cup and drink. Jangan lupa minum zamzam, stand and face the kiblat ok.

Kalau yang these water coolers pulak, they are not zamzam. Ni normal water jer. That is what the guard told Qiey bila Qiey tengah nak fill his bottle. Guard tu cakap zamzam yang only around the masjid punya circumference and from the tumblers. Take note hor.

Part makan, since kita stayed at Hilton, they only served breakfast. So lunch dinner semua at our own expenses. Kat Mekkah memang senang nak carik makan. The most favourite is the burger shop kat bawah hotel kita. Aku dengan Qiey almost everyday makan the burger. Kalau tak, pergi KFC kat Zamzam Tower. Kat atas Zamzam Tower pun ada banyak kedai. Ada fast food ada jual nasi nasi. Pricing wise not so cheap but not expensive also. But portion besar and banyak! Try to share lah hor.

Aku kalau dah start bercerita, memang taknak stop. So lebih baik aku stop kat sini dulu. I shall continue some other time InshaaAllah.

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Prego

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For the record, I am not talking about the pasta brand. And no, I am not pregnant too. Ok I lied. I am pregnant. Wahahahaha yessss I am pregnant you annoying people!!

1 word: Alhamdullillah.

Ok ok I know you people out there are eager to know my story - I'm shameless I know - so lay back and read on.

As you guys know - or not - in my previous previous post, I've stated that I've went to KKH for check up erm 2 years ago? And since doctor said I am normal, I leave my faith in Allah.

I didn't take any medications. I didn't go for any treaments. All I did was made doa for Allah to give me the rezki that is best for me. Frankly I didn't specifically prayed for a child. Rezki in any form, I'm not choosy. Hehe.

My menses have never been regular. It is always late. 1 week or 2 weeks. Or I could also missed a month! But I've never bother to check. I secretly pray my menses would come actually hahahhahah!! And when my menses finally comes, I'll say Alhamdullillah heheheheh.

But this time, I feel something is not right. My boobs sore for too long. Super sore unlike my regular menses sore. My feet is always cold. I am so fatigue, I can fall asleep in a split second. I can even fall asleep in the sauna for 30 minutes ok! I don't have appetite but I crave to eat this and that. Ended up with little bites only. Oilment is my bestfriend. The feeling of be being pregnant is very strong.

So on 26th November 2015, that very morning, I took out my old test kit - which have been in my drawer for God knows how long - and tried peeing on it.

I put the kit behind me then I took it back then I put it back again and slowly pick it up back. HAHAHA! I stared at it until I saw the line at the "T" window and then the "C" window. I looked at the cover, 2 lines means I'm pregnant.

Sh.....

No I did not say shit. Well I wanted to but I stopped myself cause I know that will not be the good word to say - for the first time. Hah.

Alhamdullillah.

I said it softly even I myself can't hear.

Tears suddenly stream down my cheek. I am a little bit confused. I don't know if I ever want this. The feeling is so....confusing lah!

I finally put the kit down and start bathing. Again I secretly wish the kit is spoilt. Urgh me and my thoughts.

Right after I'm done, I get dressed and woke Qiey up. Oh oh before waking him up, I actually had my phone camera on hahaha. Just to record his reaction.

'Dear...'

'Mmmm...'

'I tak pergi kerja tau.'

'Mmm... Asal?'

'I'm pregnant.'

I am starting to feel nauseous and the urge of puking is at my throat!

I actually wanted to say something more than just "I'm pregnant" but I can't say it out. I wanted to say more like "I think I feel like something is growing in me and it is gona grow for another 8 months?" But nothing of that came out hahaha.

I started crying after that then Qiey asked if I'm happy, I said I don't know. Hahahahhaha omg what in the world?!

I went out from my room and my mom saw me with t-shirt and jeans, 'Eh kau tak pergi kerja?'

I showed her the kit and she said, 'Alhamdullillah' in a very relaxed mode. But I know that woman is jumping in her heart hahaha.

We went to the clinic after that and then doctor said I am 6 weeks pregnant since my last menses.

'Doctor, you're not gona get my pee tested?'

'No need lah. Since you've already checked and it is positive so positive it is.'

'But you know, I've been married for 4 years and suddenly I'm pregnant. So I'm really pregnant?'

The doctor laughed at me and asked me to lay on the bed. He gave light knocks on my tummy and listened through his stethoscope. He nodded and asked me to get up slowly. He gave me some folic acid and nausea pills.

I don't feel satisfied lah. I bought another kit from Guardian. I tried again when I'm home and yes, 2 lines. Trust me, 3 days passed, I still looked at the kits. I only threw them at the 3rd day hahaha.

Sooo, went for check up today, 2nd Jan 2016, I am now in my 10th weekh pregnant. Alhamdullillah. My EDD will be in 25th July 2016 InshaaAllah.

Nari pulak birthday Qiey. Birthday present indeed!!

2015 have been perfect for me. Naik pangkat, naik gaji, naik umrah (LOL) and also got to know I am pregnant. If it is not for the doas by my loved ones, things will not happen. Thank you everyone who never fail to pray for me. I love each one of you. May Allah bless all of you and give back the best to you guys.

*wipe tears *

Hehe and yes, I am already pregnant when I left for umrah. Think it was around 7 weeks. Whenever people ask us to pray so we'll get a child, I'll giggled to myself. They don't know my secret hehe.

Please make doa for me and baby. May everything goes well for this journey. InshaaAllah Amiin Amiin.

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Who's looking after?

Assalamualaikum.

1 of the difficulties some couples hafta face is who shall look after their baby when the wife hafta go back to work when her ML ended.

I always have this convo with my girlfriends. If they don't have a volunteery mom/mil, they hafta think of a solution which is either putting their baby in IFC or to get a helper or to quit their job.

OMG quit their job?? I can never think of that as an option. Gahhhh!

It is a bonus if their mom/mil staying with them, not working, still strong & loveeee to take care of their baby. Read: my mom. But too bad, I don't have baby yet huahuahua. So now my mom helps to look after my cats only lah. Hehe.

For those who can depend on their mom/mil who is not staying with them is still considered lucky though they need to get up super early as they hafta go out earlier to send their kids before they go to work.

But for those who can't depend on their mom/mil, they have no choice but to choose 1 of those options.

Some still in pain and sadness that they hafta send their baby to IFC. It is not only expensive but they hafta rush back home so they won't be late cause if not, they hafta pay the penalty fees.

5 minutes $10! What?! I can get 5 items from Daiso with that $10 sey! Or McSpicy meal with a hot fudge sundae perhaps! Or 2 viscose shawls from Geylang Serai. Hahahaha $10 is so preciousss!

These care centres can be risky too cause if 1 child is down with sickness - say HFMD - your baby will easily get infected too. And since they have afew babies to look after, your baby will most of the time left alone, talking to the ceiling and thinking what will  their future holds. Oh tough thoughts!

Second option? Get a helper! But you'll feel uneasy and always worry what's gona happen at home. Best is to install cameras. But with cameras also, some helper, alah I don't wana say lah! And getting a helper is not a cheaper option anyway. Next year I heard their downpayment and such raised alot. Adoi...

But right, I think I would wana get a helper instead of putting my baby in IFC. At least my house will be maintained, I don't hafta rush, yada yada lah. But, that is if I am lucky enough, I'll get a great helper. If I am assigned to a crazy one, that would be a big problem!

Ok ok I will still consider getting a helper. Provided my mom is no longer capable of taking care of my baby when God wants to give me teeheehee.

Last but not least, the idea of quitting their job!! Though I think some are happy to quit and call themselves 'SAHM', but some wish they don't hafta choose this option.

I have 2 good friends who have been SAHM for couple of years but are looking around for a job. 1 wants to take part time job. She tried afew places but all ended up in less than 10 days cause of the not flexible timing. Another girlfriend need a full time job so her life can go back on track hahaha.

I think I can't see myself doing that man! Not in a million years. And being stuck with my baby 24/7? Eh I really cannot imagine lah.

BUT I can't put a fullstop here. Who knows when I have my own child, I will beg my husband to let me stay home. And I will cry together with my baby so I don't hafta go to work.

It is not easy to be a SAHM when financial is at risk. Everything is so tight especially in Singapore when everythingggg is getting expensive. Unless their husband earns alotttt then that cannot say lah.

Well then, to each its own lah right. Every couple has their own way so no judging people, no judging! In whatever ways they decide, I just pray for the best for everyone. May Allah make it easy for them.

God works in misterious ways. Here I am having a mom at home, fit and alwayssss says she's eager to look after my children, God says it is not my time yet. Not sure when is the right time though. It could be anytime man! Suddenly next 9 months and BAM here comes my junior.

Yes my junior not Qiey's junior. I want a girl so can matchy matchy with me! Can dress her up! Then she can wear my engagement clothes when she gets engaged in the future. Hahahahha okayyy too far Annisa.

Whatever it is, lets just enjoy this "free time" first ok. InshaaAllah He'll give me and Qiey babiessss when He thinks we are ready - which I think I'll never be ready but He'll just give cause He knows.

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Sauna

Assalamualaikum.

Last 2 ke 3 week, my bestie si Mas texted me tanya nak ikut dia pergi sauna ke tak. Dalam hati aku budak ni zumba lah sauna lah. Member semangat send aku gambar & link of that company. Nampak interesting dok so aku pun, ok ah lets give it a try.

So aku bilang Qiey lah yang aku nak ikut Mas pergi sauna. Amazingly dia boleh tak kasi eh. Tak pernah-pernah dia tak kasi aku go somewhere. So aku pun merajuk dengan dia huhu.

Then Mas and Maria (our Zumba instructor aka Mas's colleague) asik cakap the sauna session best best best. I is jealous you know! So aku pun cuba lah nasib try tanya Qiey lagi. This time, dia cakap boleh. Woohoo!! Tak tahu what made him change his mind. Suspect aku kasi bayekkk punya. HAHAHAHA!

So semalam akhirnya aku dapat try tu sauna. Ke-excited-an aku makin meluap-luap. Once reached, I registered and made payment. After that we were given towel and clothing.

The pricing is $35 for 2 sessions. The next session tu hafta be done within another 7 days if not, it will expire. Tu part tak gerek ah dok. Reason is, they want us to come everyweek cause it will work better for your body. Hokayyy...

Kita pun salin baju. The baju is a 2 piece baju, a kimono-ish top and a 3/4 pants. So before we enter the room (makin excited ni aku), we hafta drink a glass of filtered water to keep us hydrated. Dah settle 1 cawan, kita pun masuk.

I was warned that the floor can be abit hot tapi kakak counter cakap panas panas sedap hahaha. Oh btw the kakak counter is a reallyyyy friendly and funny lady. Aku suka cara dia. Tak pushy and selalu bikin klaka.

Ok ah dah enter tu room, not bad ah panas dia. Dia bukan panas panassss tau. Dia panas bangsa manageable ah. The room has 8 "beds". Beds tu actually on the floor jer, it is a special tiles. Ah macam kat gambar tu (photo taken from website). Ah baju tadi aku cakap pun macam dalam gambar ni ah.

Oh oh they have 3 rooms. 1 room all ladies, 1 room all men and another room is mixed gender. But bila nak duduk luar tu takut lelaki lalu lalang, boleh cover sikit ah dengan tuala that was given. Tapi semalam aku tak nampak 1 lelaki pun noh.

Si Mas dah pergi afew times so she's used to the hotness. Member tak baring atas tuala k. Dia baring straight on the tiles. Suspect kulit dia kebal, dah boleh join thaipusam hahaha.

Mas tanya aku ok ke tak, ok jer bro. Tapi bosan per, takde benda nak buat. Stare at the ceiling. Iyer lah mana boleh bawak masuk handphone. Tapi aku rasa 5 minutes later gitu, aku tertidur.

K the session actually depends on how long your body can take. Once your body dah macam starts to fidgit, means ok your body tells you that you had enough. Kakak tu cakap some people 25 minutes dah settle. But kalau boleh, 30-40 minutes ah. So we stayed for 40 minutes.

Ah aku tadi cakap aku tertidur kan, amazingly boleh tertidur. Aku tersadar sebab ada orang masuk bilik tu. Aku tengok baru 15 minutes passed. Aku dah start berpeluh. Aku turn and baring on my left side. Mak aiiii.... peluh aku semua mengalir bak waterfall! Ok bedek ah, mengalir bak water droplets kat tingkap time hujan. And it keeps on going tau. Shiok pulak tu hahaha! Weird!

Baru nak terlelap lagi, ada orang ngorok eh. Suspect Mas. Ceh hahaha tak lah, obviously the new person yang entered the room. Halermak aku macam nak pergi tempat dia and kejut dia tapi takpe ah, member penat agaknyer. Kalau dia kat sebelah aku, memang dah mentak kene tap macam Qiey selalu kene. Aku tak brutal ah. Tap sikit jer.

Turned to my right pulak, panas kan sebelah kanan. Tak ku sangka si Mas masih boleh tahan tanpa tuala. Orang cakap biar kebal jangan bebal hahaha.

K last 10 minutes, aku dah start rasa yang peluh aku seluas Pacific Ocean. Lek lek tahan lagi 10 minutes jer dok. Kau tahu apa aku buat? Aku do minor exercise haha. Aku buat glute bridges, bicycles and planking. Weyh not bad ah buat dalam tu room, kau rasa macam peluh kau lagi bertenaga hahaha.

Basically this sauna thingy bukan setakat masuk bilik panas abeh berpeluh tau. It is more than that of course. Abeh kau rasa $35 for 2 sessions tu suka-suka ah? Puas hati duduk dalam toilet rumah on water water from shower. Hahaha!

This session is more to deoxidation therapy. It has alot of benefits. Semalam kakak tu explain kat aku. Aku faham ah. Tapi kalau nak aku explain kat korang, memang tak ah hahaha. Untuk keterangan lanjut, korang gi visit the website.

Lepas 40 minutes dah habes, aku cakap dengan korang, baju kita basah gila weyh. Kalau perah, boleh kompol 1 baldi. Ok bedek. Sorry aku banyak exaggerate sey. K lah kalau perah pun boleh collect 1 gayung jer ah.

Kita settle minum air 1 cawan lagi before proceed to mandi. Dorang dah siap kan sabun. Sabun dorang bukan calang-calang punya dok. Sabun dorang tu kira ada tu benda ah apa eh. Aku lupa ah. Jap eh aku check website dia ...... oh it is enzymes. Haaaa....

Dah siap semua, sebelum kita ciao, kita kene minum air lagi. Ni air pulak called.... lupa lagi! Jap eh aku WA Mas and ask ...... oh fruit enzyme. Air dia ni buat aku terkejut! Sedap tu memang sedap tapi at 1st sip, aku macam anjat gergerl. Sharp sour taste. Tapi lama-lama ok ah. That is good for your digestion lor.

Panjang betul cerita aku. Pokoknyer I really love the sauna. Peluh sedap, badan ringan. Dah tu, aku pun tidur cepat! Usually it will be around 12midnight to 1am tapi semalam aku tidur 10ish. Tu pun tunggu Qiey pergi kerja. Kalau tak aku rasa I'll sleep way earlier.

Korang try ah kalau korang nak. Serious you guys will sweat it all out.