Who's looking after?

Assalamualaikum.

1 of the difficulties some couples hafta face is who shall look after their baby when the wife hafta go back to work when her ML ended.

I always have this convo with my girlfriends. If they don't have a volunteery mom/mil, they hafta think of a solution which is either putting their baby in IFC or to get a helper or to quit their job.

OMG quit their job?? I can never think of that as an option. Gahhhh!

It is a bonus if their mom/mil staying with them, not working, still strong & loveeee to take care of their baby. Read: my mom. But too bad, I don't have baby yet huahuahua. So now my mom helps to look after my cats only lah. Hehe.

For those who can depend on their mom/mil who is not staying with them is still considered lucky though they need to get up super early as they hafta go out earlier to send their kids before they go to work.

But for those who can't depend on their mom/mil, they have no choice but to choose 1 of those options.

Some still in pain and sadness that they hafta send their baby to IFC. It is not only expensive but they hafta rush back home so they won't be late cause if not, they hafta pay the penalty fees.

5 minutes $10! What?! I can get 5 items from Daiso with that $10 sey! Or McSpicy meal with a hot fudge sundae perhaps! Or 2 viscose shawls from Geylang Serai. Hahahaha $10 is so preciousss!

These care centres can be risky too cause if 1 child is down with sickness - say HFMD - your baby will easily get infected too. And since they have afew babies to look after, your baby will most of the time left alone, talking to the ceiling and thinking what will  their future holds. Oh tough thoughts!

Second option? Get a helper! But you'll feel uneasy and always worry what's gona happen at home. Best is to install cameras. But with cameras also, some helper, alah I don't wana say lah! And getting a helper is not a cheaper option anyway. Next year I heard their downpayment and such raised alot. Adoi...

But right, I think I would wana get a helper instead of putting my baby in IFC. At least my house will be maintained, I don't hafta rush, yada yada lah. But, that is if I am lucky enough, I'll get a great helper. If I am assigned to a crazy one, that would be a big problem!

Ok ok I will still consider getting a helper. Provided my mom is no longer capable of taking care of my baby when God wants to give me teeheehee.

Last but not least, the idea of quitting their job!! Though I think some are happy to quit and call themselves 'SAHM', but some wish they don't hafta choose this option.

I have 2 good friends who have been SAHM for couple of years but are looking around for a job. 1 wants to take part time job. She tried afew places but all ended up in less than 10 days cause of the not flexible timing. Another girlfriend need a full time job so her life can go back on track hahaha.

I think I can't see myself doing that man! Not in a million years. And being stuck with my baby 24/7? Eh I really cannot imagine lah.

BUT I can't put a fullstop here. Who knows when I have my own child, I will beg my husband to let me stay home. And I will cry together with my baby so I don't hafta go to work.

It is not easy to be a SAHM when financial is at risk. Everything is so tight especially in Singapore when everythingggg is getting expensive. Unless their husband earns alotttt then that cannot say lah.

Well then, to each its own lah right. Every couple has their own way so no judging people, no judging! In whatever ways they decide, I just pray for the best for everyone. May Allah make it easy for them.

God works in misterious ways. Here I am having a mom at home, fit and alwayssss says she's eager to look after my children, God says it is not my time yet. Not sure when is the right time though. It could be anytime man! Suddenly next 9 months and BAM here comes my junior.

Yes my junior not Qiey's junior. I want a girl so can matchy matchy with me! Can dress her up! Then she can wear my engagement clothes when she gets engaged in the future. Hahahahha okayyy too far Annisa.

Whatever it is, lets just enjoy this "free time" first ok. InshaaAllah He'll give me and Qiey babiessss when He thinks we are ready - which I think I'll never be ready but He'll just give cause He knows.

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