Keep It Behind Closed Doors

Assalamualaikum.

Hiiii.... Panas panas panas! Sekarang malam kalau tidur, kipas sekuat helicopter pun boleh berpeluh.

Actually yang panas sekarang aku nak cakap bukan pasal cuaca tetapi pasal......yes you are right! About the man who was caught cheating with another girl by his wife only after 6 weeks of marriage. Boomz!

Kkk before korang nak judge aku, ni disclaimer k. Aku start dengan salam tau so FYI, this is not a gossip post. I have something to share yang ada khaitan dengan this incident. Ready to read? Ok lets gone!

I have a friend, Rila (not her real name). A close friend actually. She has known this Akim (not his real name) for 9 years and decided to get married. 3 months later, they went for a divorce. Nak tahu apasal? Because the guy cheated on her. Infact he has been cheating even before they got married.

Fyi, the scandalcame to their wedding too. Sama case lah dok!

Devastated indeed but did Rila choose to open up her story on social media? No. She only shared with us (her closest friends and family behind closed doors) for what had happened.

Yes the process of separation took like a year cause Akim tak turun for counseling. And bila turun pun nanti putar belit cerita and blamed Rila for this and that. But eventually their marriage still ended.

Imagine if she opened up in public. Dia post muka Akim tengah peluk dengan scandal. Dia bilang 1 dunia Akim punya family side Akim walaupun Akim salah. Dia bilang seluruh umat yang Akim buang barang dia keluar dari bilik and dia kene kutip barang-barang dia. Imagine dia turun kat tempat Akim dating perempuan tu and serang dorang and pekik-pekik and maki-maki dorang.

Sounds familiar eh. Everything that girl told the world, it happened exactly to my friend.

Tapi Alhamdulillah Rila tu masih waras and imaan kuat. Bila Rila kene marah ke apa dengan Akim and family, Rila kept quiet. She is 1 strong woman that aku respect sangat sangat. Bak kata pepatah, biar orang buat kita, jangan kita buat orang.

Now that is redha and pasrah. Tak payah nal malu kan orang lain, tak payah nak kecoh 1 kampong, tak payah nak serang terbalikkan tray segalak. And guess what? She's happily married now with a better guy (InshaaAllah).

So now my 2 cents. Aku tahu 2 cents tak laku tapi I am still giving it. I know, when we're angry, we'll say things that we don't mean to. Cakap main lepas jer. Tapi sebelum buat perkara macam gitu, kita rilek jap. Istighfar. Amik nafas. For a second, think just about the consequences. Jangan ikut nafsu.

Sekarang cerita dah pun ke semberang tambak. Muka kau, suami kau and scandal semua dah terpampang. Adoi.... Siapa yang malu nanti? Ni bukan antara korang 3 jer tau. This involves everybody which means each and every family.

Malu aside, now siapa yang tanggung dosa? Dosa orang yang kutuk laki kau, dosa orang kutuk kau jugak sebab kau bukak aib suami kau, dosa orang kutuk perempuan scandal tu, dosa orang share sana sini cerita korang, blablabla yadayadayada. Kata-kata orang mengutuk tu semua kau tanggung dosa. Kau mampu?

So yeah, just few more words here, think before you act. Sekian.

Wassalam.

P/S Aku taknak comment berlebihan about how they handle their problem (ie exposed on social media, serang menyerang, balas membalas). Nasi dah jadi bubur. Kalau bubur masjid yang sedap ok jugak lah. Ambil semua sebagai ikhtibar. Jangan lah post online hal-hal macam gini. Nanti menyesal bro.