Who's looking after?

Assalamualaikum.

1 of the difficulties some couples hafta face is who shall look after their baby when the wife hafta go back to work when her ML ended.

I always have this convo with my girlfriends. If they don't have a volunteery mom/mil, they hafta think of a solution which is either putting their baby in IFC or to get a helper or to quit their job.

OMG quit their job?? I can never think of that as an option. Gahhhh!

It is a bonus if their mom/mil staying with them, not working, still strong & loveeee to take care of their baby. Read: my mom. But too bad, I don't have baby yet huahuahua. So now my mom helps to look after my cats only lah. Hehe.

For those who can depend on their mom/mil who is not staying with them is still considered lucky though they need to get up super early as they hafta go out earlier to send their kids before they go to work.

But for those who can't depend on their mom/mil, they have no choice but to choose 1 of those options.

Some still in pain and sadness that they hafta send their baby to IFC. It is not only expensive but they hafta rush back home so they won't be late cause if not, they hafta pay the penalty fees.

5 minutes $10! What?! I can get 5 items from Daiso with that $10 sey! Or McSpicy meal with a hot fudge sundae perhaps! Or 2 viscose shawls from Geylang Serai. Hahahaha $10 is so preciousss!

These care centres can be risky too cause if 1 child is down with sickness - say HFMD - your baby will easily get infected too. And since they have afew babies to look after, your baby will most of the time left alone, talking to the ceiling and thinking what will  their future holds. Oh tough thoughts!

Second option? Get a helper! But you'll feel uneasy and always worry what's gona happen at home. Best is to install cameras. But with cameras also, some helper, alah I don't wana say lah! And getting a helper is not a cheaper option anyway. Next year I heard their downpayment and such raised alot. Adoi...

But right, I think I would wana get a helper instead of putting my baby in IFC. At least my house will be maintained, I don't hafta rush, yada yada lah. But, that is if I am lucky enough, I'll get a great helper. If I am assigned to a crazy one, that would be a big problem!

Ok ok I will still consider getting a helper. Provided my mom is no longer capable of taking care of my baby when God wants to give me teeheehee.

Last but not least, the idea of quitting their job!! Though I think some are happy to quit and call themselves 'SAHM', but some wish they don't hafta choose this option.

I have 2 good friends who have been SAHM for couple of years but are looking around for a job. 1 wants to take part time job. She tried afew places but all ended up in less than 10 days cause of the not flexible timing. Another girlfriend need a full time job so her life can go back on track hahaha.

I think I can't see myself doing that man! Not in a million years. And being stuck with my baby 24/7? Eh I really cannot imagine lah.

BUT I can't put a fullstop here. Who knows when I have my own child, I will beg my husband to let me stay home. And I will cry together with my baby so I don't hafta go to work.

It is not easy to be a SAHM when financial is at risk. Everything is so tight especially in Singapore when everythingggg is getting expensive. Unless their husband earns alotttt then that cannot say lah.

Well then, to each its own lah right. Every couple has their own way so no judging people, no judging! In whatever ways they decide, I just pray for the best for everyone. May Allah make it easy for them.

God works in misterious ways. Here I am having a mom at home, fit and alwayssss says she's eager to look after my children, God says it is not my time yet. Not sure when is the right time though. It could be anytime man! Suddenly next 9 months and BAM here comes my junior.

Yes my junior not Qiey's junior. I want a girl so can matchy matchy with me! Can dress her up! Then she can wear my engagement clothes when she gets engaged in the future. Hahahahha okayyy too far Annisa.

Whatever it is, lets just enjoy this "free time" first ok. InshaaAllah He'll give me and Qiey babiessss when He thinks we are ready - which I think I'll never be ready but He'll just give cause He knows.

Sign out!

Sauna

Assalamualaikum.

Last 2 ke 3 week, my bestie si Mas texted me tanya nak ikut dia pergi sauna ke tak. Dalam hati aku budak ni zumba lah sauna lah. Member semangat send aku gambar & link of that company. Nampak interesting dok so aku pun, ok ah lets give it a try.

So aku bilang Qiey lah yang aku nak ikut Mas pergi sauna. Amazingly dia boleh tak kasi eh. Tak pernah-pernah dia tak kasi aku go somewhere. So aku pun merajuk dengan dia huhu.

Then Mas and Maria (our Zumba instructor aka Mas's colleague) asik cakap the sauna session best best best. I is jealous you know! So aku pun cuba lah nasib try tanya Qiey lagi. This time, dia cakap boleh. Woohoo!! Tak tahu what made him change his mind. Suspect aku kasi bayekkk punya. HAHAHAHA!

So semalam akhirnya aku dapat try tu sauna. Ke-excited-an aku makin meluap-luap. Once reached, I registered and made payment. After that we were given towel and clothing.

The pricing is $35 for 2 sessions. The next session tu hafta be done within another 7 days if not, it will expire. Tu part tak gerek ah dok. Reason is, they want us to come everyweek cause it will work better for your body. Hokayyy...

Kita pun salin baju. The baju is a 2 piece baju, a kimono-ish top and a 3/4 pants. So before we enter the room (makin excited ni aku), we hafta drink a glass of filtered water to keep us hydrated. Dah settle 1 cawan, kita pun masuk.

I was warned that the floor can be abit hot tapi kakak counter cakap panas panas sedap hahaha. Oh btw the kakak counter is a reallyyyy friendly and funny lady. Aku suka cara dia. Tak pushy and selalu bikin klaka.

Ok ah dah enter tu room, not bad ah panas dia. Dia bukan panas panassss tau. Dia panas bangsa manageable ah. The room has 8 "beds". Beds tu actually on the floor jer, it is a special tiles. Ah macam kat gambar tu (photo taken from website). Ah baju tadi aku cakap pun macam dalam gambar ni ah.

Oh oh they have 3 rooms. 1 room all ladies, 1 room all men and another room is mixed gender. But bila nak duduk luar tu takut lelaki lalu lalang, boleh cover sikit ah dengan tuala that was given. Tapi semalam aku tak nampak 1 lelaki pun noh.

Si Mas dah pergi afew times so she's used to the hotness. Member tak baring atas tuala k. Dia baring straight on the tiles. Suspect kulit dia kebal, dah boleh join thaipusam hahaha.

Mas tanya aku ok ke tak, ok jer bro. Tapi bosan per, takde benda nak buat. Stare at the ceiling. Iyer lah mana boleh bawak masuk handphone. Tapi aku rasa 5 minutes later gitu, aku tertidur.

K the session actually depends on how long your body can take. Once your body dah macam starts to fidgit, means ok your body tells you that you had enough. Kakak tu cakap some people 25 minutes dah settle. But kalau boleh, 30-40 minutes ah. So we stayed for 40 minutes.

Ah aku tadi cakap aku tertidur kan, amazingly boleh tertidur. Aku tersadar sebab ada orang masuk bilik tu. Aku tengok baru 15 minutes passed. Aku dah start berpeluh. Aku turn and baring on my left side. Mak aiiii.... peluh aku semua mengalir bak waterfall! Ok bedek ah, mengalir bak water droplets kat tingkap time hujan. And it keeps on going tau. Shiok pulak tu hahaha! Weird!

Baru nak terlelap lagi, ada orang ngorok eh. Suspect Mas. Ceh hahaha tak lah, obviously the new person yang entered the room. Halermak aku macam nak pergi tempat dia and kejut dia tapi takpe ah, member penat agaknyer. Kalau dia kat sebelah aku, memang dah mentak kene tap macam Qiey selalu kene. Aku tak brutal ah. Tap sikit jer.

Turned to my right pulak, panas kan sebelah kanan. Tak ku sangka si Mas masih boleh tahan tanpa tuala. Orang cakap biar kebal jangan bebal hahaha.

K last 10 minutes, aku dah start rasa yang peluh aku seluas Pacific Ocean. Lek lek tahan lagi 10 minutes jer dok. Kau tahu apa aku buat? Aku do minor exercise haha. Aku buat glute bridges, bicycles and planking. Weyh not bad ah buat dalam tu room, kau rasa macam peluh kau lagi bertenaga hahaha.

Basically this sauna thingy bukan setakat masuk bilik panas abeh berpeluh tau. It is more than that of course. Abeh kau rasa $35 for 2 sessions tu suka-suka ah? Puas hati duduk dalam toilet rumah on water water from shower. Hahaha!

This session is more to deoxidation therapy. It has alot of benefits. Semalam kakak tu explain kat aku. Aku faham ah. Tapi kalau nak aku explain kat korang, memang tak ah hahaha. Untuk keterangan lanjut, korang gi visit the website.

Lepas 40 minutes dah habes, aku cakap dengan korang, baju kita basah gila weyh. Kalau perah, boleh kompol 1 baldi. Ok bedek. Sorry aku banyak exaggerate sey. K lah kalau perah pun boleh collect 1 gayung jer ah.

Kita settle minum air 1 cawan lagi before proceed to mandi. Dorang dah siap kan sabun. Sabun dorang bukan calang-calang punya dok. Sabun dorang tu kira ada tu benda ah apa eh. Aku lupa ah. Jap eh aku check website dia ...... oh it is enzymes. Haaaa....

Dah siap semua, sebelum kita ciao, kita kene minum air lagi. Ni air pulak called.... lupa lagi! Jap eh aku WA Mas and ask ...... oh fruit enzyme. Air dia ni buat aku terkejut! Sedap tu memang sedap tapi at 1st sip, aku macam anjat gergerl. Sharp sour taste. Tapi lama-lama ok ah. That is good for your digestion lor.

Panjang betul cerita aku. Pokoknyer I really love the sauna. Peluh sedap, badan ringan. Dah tu, aku pun tidur cepat! Usually it will be around 12midnight to 1am tapi semalam aku tidur 10ish. Tu pun tunggu Qiey pergi kerja. Kalau tak aku rasa I'll sleep way earlier.

Korang try ah kalau korang nak. Serious you guys will sweat it all out.